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20 Things Men Look For In Their Ideal Partner


20 Things Men Look For In Their Ideal Partner


Men Want More Than Just One Thing

If you're looking to meet a man, then it's a good idea to understand what it is they're looking for. Most men are seeking someone with shared values and who can make them laugh, but there's a lot more to it. Here are 20 things men look for in their ideal partner.

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1. Kindness

Many men believe that kindness is one of the most important attributes in a partner. It's highly valued because it demonstrates compassion and empathy, and can help build trust. 

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2. Emotional Support

Men might act tough, but they need emotional support. By looking for a partner who can provide adequate emotional support, they will be better equipped to face life's obstacles as a couple. 

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3. Shared Values 

Shared values is a big box to check for most men. Shared values about family, children, religion, and politics can ensure a relationship thrives, guide decisions, and help make plans for the future. 

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4. Sense of Humor

Who wouldn't love being with someone who could make them laugh? Many men consider a strong sense of humor to be one of the most important traits in a partner. Matching humors is a good sign of compatibility. 

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5. Physical Attraction

Let's be honest, there's no substitute for physical attraction. This plays a huge role in most relationships, and while it might feel shallow, it's really not. You need to be attracted to your partner and everyone has their tastes and preferences. It's never about perfection. 

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6. Loyalty

Loyalty is an important quality for most men. Loyalty means sticking by your partner through life's big and small challenges. Loyaty builds trust and makes your partner feel secure and stable. 

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7. Intelligence

Men want intelligence but it doesn't mean you need to be a rocket scientist who runs your local Mensa chapter. It's about stimulating conversation, ability to navigate complex situations, giving insightful advice, and having interesting opinions.

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8. Independence

Men admire an independent person. This is someone who provides for themselves and is confident with their identity. It's appealing to have a partner who can be in a commited relationship, while also pursuing their own passions and interests.

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9. Strong Communication Skills

Strong communication is the foundation of any happy relationship. Men want a partner who can express themselves in a healthy way, and won't be shy about clearly communicating their needs and opinions. Good communication prevents misunderstandings and can limit frustrating arguments. 

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10. Affectionate

Some men might seem standoffish, but they all want affection. Affection is a way to make a partner feel loved and appreciated. It can be small gestures like cuddling or a big hug after a hard day. Men seek a partner who is warm and can be physically and emotionally affectionate. 

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11. Respectful

Respect is an essential building block of any successful relationship. Men want a partner who values their opinions, passions, and ambitions. Respect in a relationship means treating each other as equals and creating a supportive environment. 

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12. Emotional Maturity

Emotional maturity boils down to handling conflict without escalating it for the sake of drama. Men want someone who takes responsibility for their actions and can remain calm during turbulent times. Emotional maturity also covers a willingness to apologize and empathize. 

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13. Stability

Many couples get stuck in antiquated notions about the man providing for their partner. However, men value being with someone who is stable financially, professionally, and emotionally. The ideal partner brings stability to their partner's life. 

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14. Passion

Men are often attracted to a person who exhibits passion. Their passion can be about their career, personal goals, relationships, or causes. Whatever it is, men are looking for a partner who is passionate about life and has the drive to pursue their passion. 

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15. Family-Oriented

If a man hopes to eventually get married and/or have children, they will gauge how a potential partner values family. Men will look at factors like how close someone is to their parents or siblings. Someone who is family-oriented is also often caring and nurturing. 

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16. Confident

Confidence is an attractive quality. It conveys self-assurance and decisiveness. Men seek a partner who is confident because it means they are comfortable with themselves, and doesn't require constant validation. A confident partner brings a sense of security to a relationship and is open to setting healthy boundaries. 

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17. Nurturing

Like most humans, men want a nurturing partner. This is someone who provides warmth and comfort. Remember, this doesn't mean that the partner needs to be maternal. It simply refers to someone who can foster intimacy and is encouraging and caring. 

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18. Adventurous

Men want to keep their relationships as fresh and exciting as possible. An adventurous partner adds excitement and a dash of spontaneity to a relationship. Being adventurous means displaying an openness to explore new places, take professional risks, or learning new skills. Facing challenges together is a great way to sustain a relationship. 

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19. Reliability

Men value reliability because it means they can depend on their partner. A reliable person is consistent, punctual, and always keeps their promises. This quality creates a stable relationship, and planning a future with someone unreliable is challenging. For men, reliability proves one's loyalty through commitment, honesty, and consistency. 

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20. Compassionate

Compassion is a big one for most men. Some people confuse compassion with kindness, but they are quite different. Compassion uses empathy to create emotional closeness and a sense of safety and security in a relationship. A compassionate partner can greatly contribute to a couple's love growing.

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