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20 Most Desirable Personality Traits


20 Most Desirable Personality Traits


Character Traits That Make You Instantly Likable

Think about the people you choose to surround yourself with: What is it about their personalities that makes them stand out? From kindness to loyalty, there's a reason why we're able to form deep connections with some people and not with others. If you're curious about what draws us in or you're wondering what qualities you might possess, here are 20 of the most desirable personality traits that are guaranteed to make you instantly likable.

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1. Honesty

Honesty builds the foundation of trust; after all, you probably would be wary of someone who lies often. An honest person, on the other hand, is reliable and trustworthy, someone you feel safe around and can depend on. They're also authentic and show their true self.

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2. Empathy

An empathetic person is one who deeply understands the thoughts, feelings, and experiences of others by putting themselves in their shoes. They're someone you're comfortable being vulnerable around because you feel understood whenever you're around them.

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3. Loyalty

A loyal person is someone who will stick with you through thick and thin, someone who you can rely on and won't turn their back on you. Whenever you need support, you know that they'll always show up to be there for you.

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4. Humility

While someone who's arrogant would boast loudly about their achievements in a way that seems standoffish, a humble person lets their actions speak for them. They don't toot their own horn to rub it in—they dial it back and ooze confidence without needing to act superior.

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5. Patience

With what life throws at us every day, our patience is always being tested. And while it might be easy to get upset and let unexpected events ruin our day, someone who's patient shows the opposite character: they're calm, stable, and in control, no matter what they're faced with.

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6. Confidence

A confident person isn't someone who constantly puts themselves in the spotlight and in the center of attention; instead, they're someone who knows their worth without needing to be loud and arrogant about it. That's why this trait is so attractive, and why people are so often drawn to those who are confident.

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7. Humor

When you have a good sense of humor, you light up a room as soon as you walk into it. Your energy is contagious, after all, and people love those who can make them laugh. Humor also strengthens connections and helps build deeper, long-lasting bonds.

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8. Compassionate

Compassion goes beyond empathy; people who are compassionate don't just deeply understand others' feelings and experiences, but are motivated to help others in any way they can. They have an ingrained desire to uplift, support, and care for others, which is why compassion is such a desired trait.

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9. Dependability

Someone who's dependable is one you know you can always rely on. They're not only there for you through thick and thin, but they also always follow through with their promises and stick to their word. It's a trait that's needed in order to build trust and respect.

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10. Open-mindedness

An open-minded person is someone who's curious about their world and others' thoughts and opinions. They're always willing to listen and learn new perspectives and aren't afraid to change their stance when presented with new information, making them easy to work with and get along with.

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11. Creativity

Creativity is all about seeing the world in different ways and thinking outside the box. People love working with creative people because they often present fresh ideas and takes that spark inspiration and lead to unique solutions.

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12. Optimism

Would you rather work with someone who's optimistic or pessimistic? Optimists have the ability to turn a bad situation around by just changing the way they view the problem. Instead of thinking a solution is impossible, they stay hopeful and positive, and that contagious energy motivates others to feel the same.

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13. Respectfulness

A respectful person values your time, boundaries, ideas, opinions, and space. Instead of ignoring or dismissing others, they listen and understand without judgment, which allows them to form strong, emotional connections with people.

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14. Intelligence

An intelligent person can quickly grasp new skills and concepts and apply them in the real world. They're quick on their feet and can come up with smart, creative solutions, and make sound reasons and judgments about different topics—which inspires you in turn.

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15. Gratitude

A simple "thank you" goes a long way, and people who show and practice gratitude are happier, kinder, and often more pleasant to be around. After all, you'd probably feel better about an interaction where someone thanks you for your efforts than someone who takes you for granted.

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16. Generosity

Someone who's generous isn't afraid to spread kindness and joy and ensure that everyone gets treated the same way. They share this contagious energy without expecting anything in return, allowing them to form deep connections with others around them.

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17. Adaptability

An adaptable person is someone who's not only open-minded to change, but also welcome it. They're completely fine with switching perspectives and gears if need be, which allows them to be valuable collaborators in projects, plans, and different environments.

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18. Resilience

Resilient people are tough, and they're quick to jump back on their feet after a blow. They don't dwell on their mistakes—they learn from them instead and bounce back stronger than before, viewing challenges as ways to further their growth.

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19. Integrity

Having integrity goes beyond honesty: someone who shows strong integrity means they're not afraid of upholding their moral principles and values, and won't sway when others challenge their views. This makes them reliable and credible in both personal and professional relationships.

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20. Wise

There's a reason why we often seek advice from people who are wise, and it's because we trust the judgments they make based on their own experiences of the world. Their insightfulness is what makes them highly respected and dependable.

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