Is He Into You?
Words are one thing, but trusting them is another. After all, everyone knows actions speak louder, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. With that in mind, here are 20 psychological signs indicating whether a man isn’t or is into you.
1. Never Calls First
If he never calls or texts first, then that's a big red flag. You always have to contact him, and when you do, he either responds a little or not at all, and it takes him forever. Don't try to talk to him more; accept the fact that it's a sign and move on.
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2. You Don’t Feel Special
If he doesn't make you feel special with words or actions, like compliments, thoughtful gestures, or random acts of kindness, then he probably isn't. A person who has an interest in you will go out of their way to make you feel special. If this behavior is lacking or non-existent, take notice of the pattern and see if he's into you.
3. No Future Talk
If he goes to great lengths to avoid any discussions about the future, it's a sign he doesn't see any long-term potential with you. He might become defensive, make a joke, or try to change the subject any time you bring it up. A lack of future planning shows he isn't that invested, so you should start thinking about your own plans and choices.
4. Isn’t Paying Attention
If he's not giving you his attention when you're together, that's a huge red flag right there. He's either on his phone, paying attention to other people, or looking at anything else but you. A guy who's into you will make an effort to pay attention to you, so take note of this trend and bring it up calmly if it's a recurring issue.
5. Focuses on the Physical
If he only wants a sexual relationship and never wants to emotionally connect with you on a deeper level, then it's a big red flag that he isn't really into you. He might be up for hooking up, but he'll always seem to be too busy for hanging out with you and doing more serious things.
6. Other Women
If he flirts with other people in front of you, that's also a very clear sign that he's not into you. He's making a point to charm other people rather than you, and that's either insulting or just plain hurtful. Don't get jealous, but take note of it and see if he's putting value on your relationship with him.
7. No Jealousy
If he isn't jealous when others flirt with you, he's likely not in it all the way. Extreme jealousy isn't healthy, of course, but a guy who doesn't care when someone else gives you attention probably doesn't care much about you either. A completely emotionless reaction over time could mean a lack of interest.
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8. Distance
He might be emotionally unavailable if he's distant and secretive. If he's not sharing his thoughts, feelings, or daily life with you, he may not be fully invested in the relationship. This behavior can create emotional distance and make it challenging to build trust or connection.
9. Lack of Effort
If he doesn't try with his looks or setting up time, it's a huge sign he doesn't care. A person that is into you will take the time to show up looking and being good to you. Plan a date that will show if he puts in any effort or not.
10. Leaves You Hanging
If he is never there when it counts, if he misses significant milestones, or neglects special dates, it may signal he is not in it. Being busy is one thing, but chronic absence might imply he's not prioritizing or caring. Absence during meaningful times can suggest he's not as into you as one would hope.
Now that we talked about signs indicating he’s not interested, here are 10 that mean he might be falling in love.
1. Eye Contact
When people are interested, they can’t help but look at you. Making eye contact when you’re talking shows that he is truly engaged and interested in everything you have to say. Eye contact is also a pretty intimate act, so being able to hold someone's gaze indicates their comfort with you.
2. Compliments
When he is making you sincere compliments, it means he likes you and is focused on you. Praises are when he notices things about you, your looks, or things you do, and wants to make you feel good about yourself. If he offers you genuine, consistent, and well-thought-out praise, it may be a sign of admiration, attraction, and emotional investment.
3. His Friends
He introduces you to his friends. Of course, this is always a good sign. It's a sign that he's proud of you and what you bring to his life, and that he wants you to be an integral part of his life.
4. Smiling
He smiles a lot when he’s around you. If he can’t seem to stop smiling when he’s around you, this is one of the most obvious signs he’s into you. He is clearly comfortable, warm, and happy when he’s with you. Smiling is an obvious sign of affection, and positive body language is a good indication that he’s emotionally invested and open to connecting with you.
5. Thoughtful Questions
He asks you questions that show he is interested in you and your life. In other words, this guy has taken the time to think of questions that are unique to you. Asking questions about your life, your interests, and what you like to do are great places to start.
6. Mirroring
If he is mirroring your body language, it is a great sign. It means he feels at ease around you and is establishing a rapport by imitating your movements, gestures, or expressions.
7. Future Talk
When he talks about the future with you, he sees you in his life. His emotional investment in future plans, goals, or shared experiences is a positive indicator that he's thinking long-term. This also means he's invested in a serious, committed relationship with you.
8. He Remembers
He should recall facts about you, as this indicates that he’s listening to what you have to say. He should take interest in your life, likes, or previous discussions with you to show that he is into you. It also means he is making an emotional investment in you and would like to connect better.
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9. Checking You Out
If he checks you out, it means he's attracted to you physically and you catch his eye. When a guy stares at you or lingers his eyes on you, he is showing you that he's interested in you. This signals attraction and a desire to connect or start a conversation.
10. Paying Attention
If he gives you his full attention when you speak, it's a powerful indication that he cares about you and values your input. He listens attentively, makes eye contact, and provides thoughtful responses, showing a genuine interest in your thoughts and feelings. Paying close attention to you is a sign of emotional investment and a desire to forge a deep connection.
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